A Message to Turkish Mothers: about your sons . . .

I bet that title caught your eye!  (Smile.)

On almost a daily basis, I hear Turkish women complain about their husbands. He doesn’t want to go anywhere.  He doesn’t do anything.  He would never consider cooking for me.  Well, I’m here to tell you, it is mostly your fault!


Turkish women, in general, treat their sons like they are “God’s gracious gifts to the world.”  Yep, I said it.  But I don’t dare go any farther here . . .

My advice to these grouchy girls is to teach your sons something else and they may possibly make a “wonderful husband” to a deserving young girl someday. And for goodness sakes, stop coming home to make your teenage (and older) sons lunch every day!

Here’s an example:  I am not sure why my Turkish in-laws were/are so awesome, but yesterday, after picking me up from the airport, my husband finished preparing a dinner for me that he had started the night before.  The menu?

  • Mixed salad with pomegranate and balsamic
  • White rice – naturally started with a browned orzo pasta
  • Steamed Turkish-style green beans with onions, tomatoes, and herbs he picked himself!
  • And the kicker?! – Islim Kebab (Patlican dilim kofte)!  That’s a Turkish meatball, wrapped in thin slices of eggplant.  He skewered them with a toothpick topping them with a slice of tomato, a leaf of home-grown basil, and a  home-grown cherry tomato!

Yes, I am bragging now.

In a nutshell, my message is “Teach Your Children Well!”

Now, what to do about American mothers and their sons . . . ???

PS – I failed to take photos, so below are a few from the internet.  If you are interested in a recipe, check out this one from our friend at Ozlem’s Turkish Table.

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  1. I absolutely do agree with you. I am always saying that there is something very wrong about Turkish mothers (and yes I am Turkish). If I can be a mom of a son in the future, I am going to teach him how to be a gentlemen not a “king” and how to be a “person”. Make sure that he never forgets, he has a mom or sister, should behave to girls as he want them to be treated. And I won’t get jealous about his girlfriends and so on. (By the way I am lucky about my mother-in-law, she is one of the coolest moms I know)

    Have a nice day

    Ps: I have been a silent reader for a long time, then I thought it’s time to make some comments 🙂

  2. Merhaba and many thanks for linking to my recipe, very kind! And I am with you, I have a young son (10 years) and he is well aware that he needs to do his part, help out, tidy/look after things for the house. He’s been making some lovely tea and proud to say, great help – we need them to be independent and supportive – look forward to his dinners, and well done to your husband, eline saglik:)

    1. Thanks for approving the share Ozlem! My husband says a part of it also has to do with being able to go away to school (or anywhere) without the parents moving with the child. That forces the person to take care of themselves. I know I have seen that a lot. Mothers or both parents moving when the child (young adult really) goes away to school.

  3. I do many things home as a married man but, I agree with the said..There is a Turkish word that (ağaç yaşken eğilir)” you can not teach an old dog new tricks”.Mothers should know this..

  4. if there were more stars to vote, I would vote more than that too! you are absolutely right! moreover, those mothers think they do nothing wrong and this is their duty to treat them the way they do already. your blog is really perfect by the way, kisses :* ❤

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